Its MY wedding, now leave me alone!

Hindsight Confession: If its not your wedding, park your opinions at the door.

(I am writing this for all the brides past, present and future...)

If its not your wedding, be cautious about your opinions. Now wait, that doesnt mean hold them in (ok, sometimes please do), and it doesnt mean lie to us (ok sometimes it does) it just means use discretion!! Its not your wedding, if you have been married, its not your chance to relive it, or to do it over, go renew your vows, thats what those are for. If you havent been married it is NOT about what YOU want. Its the brides day and she has the final say. Feel free to give your opinion, when asked, but Brides are interesting creatures. They are hormonal the closer to the day it gets, they are emotional and sometimes irrational, they want your opinion but then they don't, so tread cautiously... but make sure you get this right... IT IS THEIR DAY, THEY GET WHAT THEY WANT. But "Aunt Mildred should be invited" Bride reserves the right to cut her off the guest list (come on she is 90, in a wheel chair and does not remember you to save her life!). "the dress makes us girls look fat" Bride gets to put you in whatever she wants and you will wear it and LOVE IT. Bride wants you to do a solo spotlight performance of Michael Jackson complete with costume, wig and choreography, then by golly you moonwalk your little heart out! It bugs me when other people (mothers, bridal party, random friends, family) give their opinion too loudly. Nice, lets make the bride feel bad about her wedding decision. Yes we know balloon animals as favors are lame but its her wedding if thats her dream, then let the girl have the dumb balloon animals! Now there is a fine line to this. Obviously the "opinion giver" loves the bride and groom, and wants to give their opinion to save them from wasting money, lots of work, bad memories, or a crappy not fun wedding. And thats all kind and wonderful, but many a time, it comes at the expense of the brides sanity and feelings and in a "I woulda felt awful if I hadn't said anything" mentality. Hmm lots of I's in that statement (remember its not your day). Here us a very common example: All brides know that a friday wedding can be an inconvience to people, but when the wedding is cheaper by doing it this way and you aren't jumping in to pay for a Saturday wedding, then guess what... thats right, Keep. your. mouth. shut! Better yet, when they have already purchased invitations, their dress, flowers, decorations, programs etc there is NOOO opinion giving other than "so cute" or "i love it". Why make the brides suffer through second guessing themselves and, why make yourself the brunt of their loathing for the duration of the engagement? You will do nothing other than piss them off!! Oh and if the bride assigns you a task, it is in your best interest to not have her have to ask you to do the same task twice. Its just bad bad bad if she does! For the duration, the bridal party and family are her slaves. You are there to ease her stress and lighten the mood and reassure her that it will all come out perfectly. Your duty is not done until the last guest leaves the reception... until then, buckle up cause its a bumpy ride!!

What about the groom?? He is a very important accessory that needs to pick the tux, plan the honeymoon and try not to piss off the bride til the day of the wedding (HA good luck with that fellas!!)

Happy Wedding Planning :)

Disclaimer: I wouldnt say I was a Bridezilla (my wedding party can chime in) but I did control A LOT (okay, ALL) of my wedding day elements and I am VERY happy with how the day turned out so poo on you who disagree with this because my method worked! :)