It’s funny how something so obvious is often forgotten. You
see people living the dream. 3 kids, fantastic house, great marriage, perfect
job, impeccable style etc. and it’s easy to think that life for them is
amazing. And while I’m sure each could go on again and again with the abundance
of true blessings, each person has their struggles. (I know, its sounding like
I’m gonna do a FB rant, but bear with me…) I attend craft night, with some very
lovely ladies and most often we keep it light and chatty, but since we have
been seeing each other every month for almost 2 years, it lends itself for some
deeper discussions. And with those deeper discussions come amazement at the
strength of these women. It’s one thing to deal with an ordeal, trauma, health
struggles, publicly but it’s another to
deal with it personally. To have your mountain be so big that you keep it close
and it resides within just a few trusted hearts. It’s those struggles that
people usually don’t talk about and those struggles that make me want to be
cheerleaders for these women. They are mommas, wives, professionals. They have
laughter and smiles and kind words to give and share and then you find out just
how big their mountains are and how they have tackled or are tackling it with
such grace and composure is amazing! But sometimes within that silence, within
that solitude of your mountain are mommas who ache to be heard. They ache to be
understood and they are looking for the camaraderie of those going through the
same thing.
So to the momma’s who….
don’t get a nap during the day after their kid was up all
night…
don’t get to snuggle their babies during weekday cartoons
drop off their babies to day care
have to hear “Mommy don’t go to work” and know there’s no
choice about that
don’t have a job and wonder how to put food on the table
have a house or apartment that feels too small, or old or
not what they’d dreamed
have family that lives far away and they don’t get to see
often
have love handles, stretch marks and a few extra pounds they
can’t shed
have slept on pee stained sheets because they forgot their
kids peed on them or were just too tired to care
forgo makeup or doing their hair or working out or much
needed “me time” for that of their family
have aches and pains and are bed ridden or home bound or not
the picture of health they once were
desperately want a child, to grow their family or begin
their family
are going at life alone, without a spouse to love and
support them
have loved ones with whom they aren’t speaking to
is picking up toy after toy and clothes after clothes and
the house is still a wreck
is just struggling to hang in there…
to those moms, I hear you. I so very much hear you! From a
mom who has more than one item on that list, I hear you. I feel you. You are
not alone. Take a deep breath… you can do it. A quote that always gets me is
“No mom ever said, id wished id hugged my child less” Same could be said for “No
mom ever said, I wished id spent less time with my kids” But I can promise we
will wish we had forgoes that homemade meal that had us pulling out our hair in
turn for an hour of snuggle time or play time with our kids. A house that’s a
mess because you chose that time to
accept the invitation to play from your baby that will only want to play with
you for a few more years. It’s thoughts like that that help me get through it.
That and knowing I’m not alone, I’m not perfect and that’s okay. Thoughts that remind me to remind MY friends
that you are doing amazing, you will reap the fruits of your labors as a mom,
wife and friend, and that in the end it is so worth it. So.Very.Worth it.
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